We can not control external factors of life. However we can control our own involvement in certain situations and events. One thing that has a major effect on what we do is our Self-love. Many us of wouldn't have certain relationships and dealings in our past had we really cared for self better in the beginning. True enough most of us weren't taught how because our own parents didn't know how to either.
Clean out the junk
Many of us (women and men) have become a heap of everyone else's expectations. We speak negatively of ourselves and accept negative critique to heart. We become afraid of being self-sufficient while delusional about our sense of independence. We ignore our own needs. We don't set boundaries for our needs to be met. As we absorb stress, we develop conditions in our bodies, become depressed, bitter, unhappy and disgusted with ourselves.
I'm embracing my journey of learning how to love myself better. I had to recognize that self love was also about my energy. I'm responsible for my own energy. I'm responsible for what I listen to including the direction of thought. I am responsible and held accountable. I'm responsible for my reactions and future actions toward another's opinions of me and my life choices.
Let's go outside
How is it possible to not be phased by outside stressors? One way is to limit your time with social outlets that you know are only making your life harder. Its true that technology is wonderful. Despite the ease of access to create various social media accounts, not all people are there for the same reasons. Sometime you are opening yourself up for further judgement of others, most that you don't even know! Many people use the apps and accounts to only show the good, happy times. Be honest about your reasons. This is also true for the television. Some T.V. shows today, although popular, may not leave the best impression on you spirit. A guilty pleasure every now and then can be o.k., yet some of us use these instruments of entertainment as hiding mechanisms. It's easy to binge watch someone else go through life's struggles, but what are you doing for yourself.
Stop comparing yourself
Listening to your friend talk about his or her success and comparing yourself to their achievement isn't healthy. Seeing a person make a fitness transformation on Instagram, can bring the feeling of depression and self doubt. Consistently feeding your mind with entertainment instead of empowerment will harm you in the long run. Seriously, just stop it. We compare ourselves as we aspire to achieve goals. We subconsciously believe we are measuring our own progress and knowledge yet it's creating a breeding ground for paranoia and self hatred. We need to recognize what we should be grateful for. When we are filled with gratitude we don't have room to compare. Finding motivation from positive sources is key to moving forward on the right path. How can we possibly expect to increase in blessings, when we're busy comparing our blessings to another's blessings? Planting seeds of envy and despair.
Empower your spirit being
No matter what religion or spiritual path you take, faith is laid in the foundation. It takes faith to know that you will become a better musician. It takes faith to know that you will learn to drive a car, to drive for that matter. No matter how little or big the project, it takes faith in knowing that it can be done. Your spirit being needs food. When you're nourished with food that builds you from within, you have grace and strength to handle offenses, toxic people and environments. You gain that inner peace. Elevated you have wisdom to navigate and reflect love and kindness when otherwise you would be torn.
Change your language toward yourself. Even if you only think certain things to yourself, if those thoughts are continued you will start believing them yourself. Instead of "I'm so stupid.", think "That may have been a less than smart thing to do but this is a learning moment". We all have flaws or nuisances about ourselves that we don't like. Listening to others pick at those flaws are not healthy what so ever. If there are people around you who you value, open a dialogue to let them know how you feel about things that are said. It definitely will be hard to have this conversation, especially with an Elder, but it's necessary to becoming the healthiest you possible. If someone cares enough for you they should understand and want to help in anyway. Here with Milli Miracle, we strive in whole body wellness, mental and emotional issue can extend to body system malfunction. Everything is connected. We need to have the control center of our temples, the mind, as well and strong as possible.